What would be your answer?
Is it to achieve all your goals and dreams?
Is it to have lots of money, a big house, and a sexy car?
Is it to have power, fame, and people’s admiration?
What does success mean to you?
My Old (and Defective) Definition of Success
For the longest time, my definition of success was something along the lines of: achieve goals I’m proud of, help a lot of people improve their life, and create wealth, abundance and freedom in my own life.
I thought it was a pretty good definition, until recent developments made me realize that there was a problem with that definition…
See, over the last 3 months, through a lot of focus, dedication and hard work, I reached a lot of the goals I had defined as “success”.
My coaching business flourished, my online course The Superhuman Blueprint surpassed my expectations, I generated good money from my endeavours, my blog reached 1000 unique visitors/day, and The Feel Good Lifestyle Facebook Page reached 10,000 fans.
From the outside, I was crushing it. But on the inside, it was a different story…
Something Wasn’t Working…
Once I reached all those goals, I was proud of myself, sure, but to be totally honest… I didn’t feel nearly as amazing and fulfilled as I had anticipated…
My confidence and belief in myself grew from those experiences, but the increase in my overall happiness was only temporary.
I felt a “high” for a little while, but before long my mind shifted to the next goals I wanted to accomplish.
The next big project, the next milestone.
And just like that, I didn’t really feel that successful anymore.
Now, I needed to reach those new goals in order to feel truly successful.
I had to achieve more, be better, and THEN I would feel successful.
Has that ever happened to you?
Somehow, I was trapped on some sort of success hamster wheel… and I was realizing the insanity of it all.
Luckily, the Universe always provides what we need, when we need it…
Just as I was having these deep reflections about life, success, and happiness, it was time to hop on a plane to San Diego, California, to attend Jonathan Budd’s Unstoppable Entrepreneur seminar.
When I got there, I knew deep down that something special was about to happen…
I knew that this confusion (and frustration) I felt about my lack of fulfillment despite reaching my goals was fertile ground for major breakthroughs.
I was ready.
A New Definition of Success
On the first day of the event, Jonathan got on stage…ran us through some powerful exercises… and soon shared with us exactly what I needed to hear.
He said: “What if, instead of seeing success as something in the future, something we strive towards, we saw it as a state, something that’s available to us in every moment?”
I liked where this was going…
He continued, “What if we now saw being ‘successful’ as: showing up in the world full of energy, love, joy, inspiration, and appreciation for what we have and the people in our life?
What if we saw success as something we can have right here, right now, just by having the right mindset and focusing on being the best version of ourselves in every moment?”
Upon hearing those words, something clicked in my head.
If we show up at our best every day, give our love to those around us, enjoy what we’re doing in every instant… what more can we really ask for?
Isn’t that what being successful at this big game called life really is?
Let that sink in to your being for an instant…
Who’s more successful, the guy who’s making millions but who’s stressed out, unfulfilled, and always desperately chasing that next thing?
Or the person who’s joyfully working towards their goals with a smile on their face, love in their heart, in a state of grace and appreciation?
Life is Happening Right Now
Since that profound revelation, I’ve consciously tried to simply be in the best possible state I can, all day.
Even as I’m writing these lines, I feel light, joyful, and excited to share this with you.
I’m not wondering, “how many people are going to read this? How many shares is it going to get? How many new subscribers is it going to yield?”
Because those things are outside my control, and chasing those “successes” is only about external validation.
I’ve decided to make my happiness independent of this or that thing happening, and instead to focus on living in a state of love, appreciation and grace…
Which is precisely what makes me happy.
It’s only been a week since this has all transpired, but this week has already confirmed that my new definition of success is working out…
I’ve had some of the best conversations I’ve ever had, I’ve felt more grateful that I had in years, and some very big opportunities have appeared in front of me.
I didn’t have to force it. I just had to show up, be present and feel good.
And Here’s the Big Secret…
If you apply this new definition of success and show up fully in every moment, all your dreams and aspirations will come true much faster.
You will inject so much positive energy into your work that the quality of your output and your results are guaranteed to improve.
Your vibration will be so high that you will attract exactly the right people, events and circumstances into your life.
You’ll be happier now, and create an even better future for yourself. Win-win!
Take a Moment Right Now… To Commit to this New Definition of Success.
Is this something you’re ready to take on right here, right now?
If so, leave a comment below to commit to it and to let me know how you now plan to approach your success.
With love in my heart and a smile on my face,