Water is fluid, soft, and yielding. But water will wear away rock, which is rigid and cannot yield. As a rule, whatever is fluid, soft, and yielding will overcome whatever is rigid and hard. This is another paradox: what is soft is strong.” ~Lao Tzu
Do you ever wish that life could unfold easily for you, that things would just work out well?
Do you wish you were one of the people who seems to catch all the lucky breaks?
I mean… who doesn’t right?
Today I want to share a little piece of spiritual wisdom I’ve been experimenting for the last few months.
Since I’ve started applying it, things just seem to be working out magically, even though I’m not “trying” nearly as hard before.
Today I want to share some of that magic with you.
“Just go with the flow!”
Has someone ever said that to you?
When you hear something like that, do you think “all right, let’s do it!” or do you feel like it’s an irresponsible way to live?
Are you the kind of person who flows with things, or who resists change and unforeseen circumstances?
Recently, I’ve decided to make it a priority in my life to learn to go with the flow, to let go of my attachments, and to trust the natural order of things.
I did it partly by choice, partly by necessity.
See I’ve always been very goal-driven. Growing as up a swimmer, I learned early on the power of goal-setting and having a clear plan of how I was going to get exactly where I wanted to go.
It was a very linear and rigid approach. Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn’t and I was really friggin’ frustrated and sad.
Earlier this year, when I moved to California, I had a clear idea of how I was going to transform my hobby for blogging into a career as an Optimal Living coach & teacher.
I had a plan and I was intent on sticking with it.
But rapidly, I realized that building an online business (especially the first time) while learning to be a businessman, a life coach, a public speaker, a writer, a student of Optimal Living and living in a new place all at once was a BIG challenge.
At first, I held on to how I had planned to achieve my goals, despite the challenges and setbacks.
But then… my level of stress kept getting higher and higher. I started freaking out.
I became less and less happy and the quality of my work started going down (we’re smarter when we’re happy, as explained in this great TED Talk).
Eventually, I broke down. For the first time in years I lost it and started crying my heart out while to talking to my Mom on Skype.
And right there and then, at the bottom of the pit, I started to let go. I started to surrender.
I started to be like water.
So, what does it mean to be like water?
Here in Boulder, I live right next to creak (a small river), which goes through the whole town. It’s totally awesome.
I love running next to it and looking at its different patterns.
The creak, day in and day out, is always flowing. It never stops.
But here’s the interesting thing. while the water follows the river bed, its movements are always changing, always adapting.
It goes around the rocks without problem, it speeds up when it needs to, and slows down when needed.
It’s always fluid, always moving, never resisting.
This is the same way we should live our life my friend.
1) You set intent for what you want to do. You choose what you’re trying to accomplish, and you declare it to the universe. Whether it’s building a business, getting a degree, finding your passion, finding a boyfriend/girlfriend or moving to a new city.
2) Then you start moving forward in the direction of your intent, while staying very fluid to what happens along the way.
When something bad unexpectedly happens, just trust that it’s happening just as it should be. That the Universe is somehow helping you out, even if you can’t really see how in this moment.
Just trust. Have faith. Smile.
And when an unexpected opportunity comes around, even if it doesn’t fit with your current plan, take a deep breath and step into it.
Just trust. Have faith. Smile again. :)
The truth is, we only have limited control over how our life unfolds. And we have 2 choices, either we resist what’s happening, or we flow with it.
When you resist, you get stress, anxiety and frustration.
When you flow, you get freedom, gratitude and “lucky breaks”.
It’s your choice.
When happens when you live like water?
In the last few months, I’ve come to believe that there’s something greater than us at play. You can call it, the Universe, The Tao, or simply God.
When we have faith in this divine order, we rise above the daily turmoil.
When you get in tune with it, when you align with this force, magical things start happening.
The more I flow, the more I’m noticing all sorts of divine coincidences in my life.
Since I’ve moved to Bolder, I somehow got invited to live with the inspiring Amber Rae, I’ve become friends with some incredible entrepreneur, including the awesome guys behind The Unreasonable Institute and Rework.
I’ve had all sorts of meaningful encounters and coincidences that just can’t be a function of luck.
Even crazier, I unexpectedly got offered a spot into The Bold Academy, an extraordinary 4-week program happening in July design to accelerate greatness and help us make BIG things happen in the world.
Oh yeah, I’ve been in Boulder for less than 2 weeks!
I remember 14 days ago, I was packing up my stuff in San Diego, wondering if I was being totally crazy.
But I flowed with it. And now magic is happening.
So my friend, over the next few days, try and notice when you’re resisting something instead of flowing with it. And surrender to it. Let go.
Whenever you get critical about a situation, stop yourself and CHOOSE to trust it’s the Universe’s way of teaching you something.
That it’s exactly what you need right in this moment.
This is a practice that takes time and consciousness, but it holds the key to taping into some kind of universal superpower.
Not only will staying more relaxed and trusting allow you to stay in an optimal mindset, but you will also have a great aura of positive energy around you which will attract people to you.
I know this might sound a bit “out-there” but why not give it a try for a while?
Be like water my friend. Fluid, soft and yielding.
Align yourself with the flow of the Universe.
And watch in wonder as everyday miracles start to happen in your life.
PS- What’s one situation where you find yourself resisting instead of flowing? Please share in the comments below!